EIGHT (8) SIGNS OF A HEALTHY HEART

1. One considers himself as belonging to the next world and not this world. He is a stranger in this world anxious to reach his abode in the Hereafter.

2. One continues to be upset with himself anytime he commits a sin until he finally and completely repents to Allah.

3. One is more upset and unhappy if he misses his daily recitation of the Qur’an and dhikr, than if he had lost his wealth.

4. One finds greater pleasure worshiping Allah than any pleasure in eating and drinking.

5. One’s worries and concerns about this world leave him whenever he begins his formal prayers.

6. One’s only concern and worries are about Allah and doing deeds only for His sake.

7. One is more concerned and stingy about wasting time than a greedy person is with respect to his wealth.

8. One is more concerned about the correctness of his deeds than with the performance of the deeds themselves.
- Ibn Qayyim (Rahimahullah)

May Allah (SWT) continue to make our hearts healthy. Amin

HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND IN ISLAM?

QUESTION:

What are the most important factors for a woman in choosing a husband? If she rejects a righteous man for some worldly reasons, will she be punished by Allaah?

ANSWER:

Praise be to Allah.
The most important factors for a woman in choosing a husband are his attitude/behaviour and his commitment to religion. Wealth and lineage are secondary matters. The most important thing is that the potential husband should be religious and have a good attitude, because if a man has religious commitment and a good attitude, a woman has nothing to lose: if he keeps her (remains married to her), he will keep her on a reasonable basis, and if he divorces her, he will set her free on a reasonable basis. Moreover, a man who is religious and has a good attitude will be a blessing to her and her children, for they will learn good manners and religion from him. But if the prospective husband is not like that (is not religious), she should keep away from him, especially those who take the matter of prayer lightly or who are known to drink alcohol. We seek refuge with Allah.

As for those who do not pray at all, they are kuffar and it is not permissible for them to marry believing women. It is important for the woman to focus on the matter of attitude and religious commitment. With regard to the matter of lineage, this is a bonus. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you (to propose marriage to your daughter etc.) a man with whose religious commitment and attitude you are pleased, then marry (your daughter) to him.”

But if you can manage to ensure compatibility (in terms of lineage and socio-economic status, etc.) as well, then this is better.

••• WE ARE EXTREMELY RICH, YET WE DON'T KNOW IT •••

Once a person came to a Sheikh (Islamic scholar) and complained to him about his own poverty, saying that he was in great distress and would prefer death to such a life.

The Sheikh said to him, "Are you willing to have your eyes taken out in exchange for ten thousand Dirhams (Silver coins)." He replied "Certainly not."

The Shaikh said "Would you like to have your tongue plucked out and get ten thousand Dirhams in return?" The man said, "Of course not."

The Shaikh said, "Would you agree to having both your hands and feet cut off in return for twenty thousand Dirhams." The man said that he would not.

The Sheikh asked "Are you willing to be made a mad man and get ten thousand Dirhams in return?" The man said that he was not willing.

At this, the Shaikh said to him, "Are you not ashamed of yourself? You admit that Allah Ta'ala has granted you so many precious gifts, the value whereof, in your own estimation, exceeds
fifty thousand Dirhams (counting only a few gifts, by way of illustration) and yet you complain of poverty!"

Source: "Fadhail-e-Sadaqaa Part II", translated by Prof. Abdul Karim.

♥ MORAL OF THE STORY ♥

The value of the above mentioned gifts can be fully understood when we lose them. Let us be more thankful to our Lord.